How To Be Selfish With Your Time

Hi all. My apologies for the radio silence but I’ve put aside the blog for the moment in order to finish a novel. My first. Normally I don’t like to talk about these things until I’m done because I don’t want to jinx the process or predispose myself to illusions of grandeur. But I’m far enough along (I won’t say how many rewrites I’ve done) to share this bit of information. 

I'm either going to finish this project or get diabetes. Maneki Neko, guide me! (photo by therockmom)

I’m either going to finish this project or get diabetes. Maneki Neko, guide me! (photo by therockmom)

As anyone who works from home knows, it is HARD, DAMN HARD to focus on your own creations, especially without deadlines and a guaranteed income stream. So many distractions surround you: dogs that need walking, cats that need cuddling, dishes that urgently need washing because you can’t figure out a transition from the front to the back story. Not to mention people who email, text or call requesting this and that because Hey! You’re a SAHM, what do you do with your time? Well, I’m here to tell you, you’ve got to be selfish with your time. Guard those hours when the kids are in school and you’re alone, with your life! They are gold. If you have any desire to create, start a business, learn a new skill, leave a mark in this world then don’t waste those hours. And if you’re prone to volunteeritis, you need to nip that in the bud. The PTA is going to be fine without you.

Thanks again for reading. I’ll be back soon with rockmom thoughts on the brilliant Laura Marling, BabyMen, fashion documentaries and how our apartment has morphed in to a cruise ship for cats.

Keep writing!

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Posted on May 15, 2015, in blogging, children, writing and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. Congratulations on approaching the finish line with your first novel. Yes, I think it’s important for everyone (especially writers) to know when to say no. Your time is precious, and it’s best for you to spend it trying to reach your personal goals instead of only trying to make everyone else around you happy.

  2. Cannot wait to read this! Well done!

    • Thanks Kate! It might be a while before it sees the published page. In the meantime, I’ve had a couple of short stories and a book review accepted for publication. Will keep you posted on their whereabouts 🙂

  3. 🙂 I have become quite expert at saying no. It took a mere five years to not feel funny about it. Now I have to make sure I wear my watch, so that I don’t lose all track of time.

    • I can imagine you saying No, but in a very gracious, considered manner! It’s not easy. I have a hard time saying, I’m writing a novel. I just say, I’ve got some work to do.

      A couple years back, I found this article very helpful:
      http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/10/11/10-signs-your-parent-is-overscheduled/

      Since then I’ve been very conscious about not stretching myself too thin or jumping in to activities that the girls are only half-interested in. I think a lot of SAHMoms or WAHMoms feel compelled to volunteer for everything and then end up complaining about the responsibilities. I know I’ve done that before! So now, when I volunteer for something I do it because I want to and I enjoy it more.

  4. Yay! Keep working on that FINAL draft!!

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